If You Feel Grief, Don't Be Ashamed...Let It Out

If You Feel Grief, Don't Be Ashamed. Let It Out. Grief is one of those emotional experiences that is simply unavoidable in life. We all experience loss in one form or another, and yet I would say that avoiding grief is one of the most common things that I see people trying to do in their lives as a reader. So many people I read for hope to find a new relationship before they have fully grieved the loss of their last relationship. Often times the desire for new love is an attempt to dull or distract the person from the intense emotions that they have inside of them, but are trying not to feel. I also see people who have been deeply hurt in their childhood and have experienced an early loss of innocence and they have not allowed themselves to feel the grief about what they went through. Instead they focus on compensating for the past by focusing their sense of happiness on outer achievements or they may avoid their emotional life all together by getting lost in various addictions. There is no way around it...grief is necessary and painful. The deeper the loss or trauma experienced, the deeper the painful feelings go. It can feel confusing because we are faced with so many opposing emotions when we confront a loss. For example, after a divorce or break-up we may find that one minute we are bargaining with God to bring the person back and then the next we are so full of rage that we are grateful no one is around. Some days we may feel like nothing has changed at all and we are certain that it is only a matter of time before we are re-united and then other days we are crying non stop because we long so deeply for the past. All emotions are valid when you are grieving. It's not the emotions that create the problem for most people, it is when they have been suppressed, intellectualized, or minimized and sit locked up in the heart, mind, and body of the individual without being expressed and released. Often times grief gets set aside because we have to work, raise children, and basically stay functional in order to survive. Our culture doesn't embrace emotions enough as it is, much less taking 2-6 months to deeply explore our feelings and allow them their naturally chaotic path to acceptance and healing. It is understandable that so many people force their way through their grief, but it is not healthy and it creates new problems in the long run. When you don't let yourself grieve and go through an intense period of emotional release you are not allowing yourself to fully heal. That sadness and anger will find it's way into other areas of your life...your job, your relationship with your children, your friends, etc. Or it may make you sick. Emotions need to flow. When they don't our energy becomes stagnant and it starts to create blocks in how we choose to live and relate in the world. We may become fearful or angry and not know why. We may project our unresolved emotions onto our next relationship and expect our new partner to take away the pain. This simply is not how it works. These are your feelings about your experience of loss and they must be felt and released by you. It is important that we make the time to do so, even if the world around us isn't encouraging us to do so. When going through a grief process it is really important to have at least one person you can talk to about the different feelings that come up for you. Having a trusted person who can witness your emotions and be there to comfort you can give you the sense of safety you need to let out the feelings that seem too intense and difficult to feel on your own. You can also keep a journal of your feelings or join an online or in-person support group of others who are going through the same thing as you. Staying connected to others will allow for sharing which will help you heal faster. Moments of loss can also be an opportunity to connect more deeply with God, the Universe, or your high-self. A personal sense of spirituality can help fill in the gaps that the loss has left behind. Our connection with our Spirit is the one constant in life and Spirit always wants you to heal and grow from a loss because that is the only way you can continue creating a life for yourself that has purpose , joy, and meaning. If you are struggling with grief. Don't feel ashamed. It is a natural healing process and the more you allow it to be, the more you will come out the other side grounded and ready to embrace hope and happiness once more. Remember that you can be both strong and vulnerable at the same time. Be kind to yourself and thank you for reading. Amanda Please visit http://empathicamanda.com/ for more information on my services. You can call 1-888-MY-ETHER ext. 12345678 to speak with me directly (if I am available...if not, please email me for an appointment!) Or get a FREE Reading using the Empathic Mystic Online Tarot by visiting http://empathicmystic.com/